There Arjuna saw in both the side of the armies, his fathers, grandfathers, teachers, maternal uncles, brothers, sons, grandsons, friends, fathers-in-law and well-wishers present.
When Krishna put the chariot in the middle of both the groups, there Arjuna saw the people who were none other than his own fathers, grandfathers, teachers, maternal uncles, brothers, sons, grandsons, friends, fathers in law, well-wishers and supporters. So, Arjuna again thinks as to whom he is going to fight!! As a result of this battle to whom he is going to destroy?? None other than his own race.
This above sloka refers to Arjuna being put in a situation where he has to fight his own people. His mind is not ready for this. This is due to attachment. Many times in life we face such situations where we have to decide between what is right or in favour of Dharma versus our relations. What do we choose?
There is this story of a Judge similar to this situation.
A Judge had sent hundreds of criminals to the gallows but one day his own son was produced before him, accused of murder. His guilt was proved beyond doubt, the time had now come for the judge to pass sentence of death of his own son. But then he began to hesitate.
He called all his ingenuity to aid and began to argue thus: ” The death penalty is most inhuman, inflicting such punishment is no credit to man. All hope to reform is destroyed. The man who committed murder did so in the heat of excitement when he was beside himself.
When the madness has passed from him, to take him coolly and calmly to the gallows and kill him is a disgrace to human society, it is a great crime.”
He thought up many such arguments. If his own son had not been brought before him the Honorable Judge would have gone on relentlessly condemning people to death for the rest of his life. But now because of partiality for his own son, he argued thus. This was not the voice of his inmost self, it was born of his attachment. “This is my son”, he thought and from this sense of attachment sprang all these high sounding words.Arjuna’s behaviour was like that of the Judge.
Then we came up to the discussion on
The role of mother as a teacher-Duty Vs Attachment
Through my experiences and what others have shared with me that teaching like a teacher by a mother is not very effective, since the child sees mother always as a mother and not a teacher at least when he is young. That is true in most of the cases and we mothers, need not feel that we haven’t done our duty effectively. We have to still do our duty and teach them to our best, and not judge how effective we were, since many times we have so many expectations about ourselves to be a role model and do a perfect job. There is nothing wrong in it, but it should not affect or bother us very much, once we have done our duty with full love and faith.
View point 2
Our real identity is our real Self. Our assumed role is the role we play in world drama, eg. a mother, father etc. It helps to play each role effectively only so that once the role is done it can be dropped off. So as mother; my roles are varied. A mother takes on the role of a teacher, friend, a guide, all together. When I as a mother play the role of teacher, to teach my child as I would do with a bunch of other kids, I should perform it with dispassion and objectivity, so my role is effective but while teaching my child if I switch to mom role, bringing up past mistakes or behaviours known to the mom personality in me, my objectivity is lost, the child before me is confused. The child will think she is better off as a mother, i don’t want her as a teacher. As a mother, hidden and unbidden expectations sprout forth. The interplay of role switching is so swift that we don’t realise it. So awareness of the role we play in our day to day life is important. It is difficult for us to be in awareness all the time, but then that’s sadhana in itself. That’s what Buddhist call mindfulness.
Teaching the youth-
View point 1
After having taken the spiritual classes for 15 over years now, I have realized that one has to be first receptive to receiving any knowledge. Having said that, one cannot give up teaching them. It should be logical. Here my view point is what is logical? First to bring youth in, we have to be able to convince them into imparting knowledge as you also agree it cannot be forced. How to bring them in? By reasoning, yes. Just as Swami Udit chaitanya explains each and every verse with full relevance and understanding to the modern mind. That is about understanding. Also he mentioned that don’t wait to acquire complete knowledge before you start practicing. Complete knowledge will take lifetimes. We have start practicing what we believe, are convinced with our logical mind and this to a great extent will help the youth in realizing that reasoning is correct and works. That is by example.
This is purely my view point since I have experienced and experiencing it daily that I am so convinced about the practical application which I think is the ultimate aim of Gita as to how lead a dharmic life.
View point 2
The youth today have to be enticed into it. As and when we get the chance to talk to them, in their terms of scientific thinking, in a modern way, in terms of psychology when the Gita is interpreted and given to them, they will atleast make space in their minds to come in for more such info. Religion or spirituality has become so commercial that the youth and adults alike are sceptics. Youth, I mean youth, and also adults who are still not reached that level of maturity and unsure of these.
To reach out to them, talking to them in a lingo which they are familiar, in terms of logic n reasoning t helps to link them closer to us and teachings of the Gita. They see the relevance of our words during their struggle with self esteem, relationships, fear of failure, rejection, struggle to survive in a world which wants only toppers,; words like believe in god , see his miracles, don’t help or alleviate their misery . Because they don’t see such things helping them in their immediate issues. If a beggar is starved he needs food, not gyan that body is not u, ur the self. he will probably throw stones at us. At such times when led thru the logic the Gita stands for, is like showing them something achievable and do able. That’s the start for them.
The above discussions are about the practical issues we face in life. How do we work towards understanding of attachment and duty? Bhagwad Gita is the answer. The best part of the Gita is in its freedom. Krishna first lets Arjuna vent out his concerns and apprehensions and step by step, brings him on the path, thru re-education of the mind.The Gita is all about mind management.